I’m currently writing this as a draft that I don’t know if I’ll ever even post for several reasons. *two hours later–ahh hell, screw it. No one reads this thing anyway
You probably know this by now, but I’m getting married next June. We’ve been engaged since January and began seriously planning this shindig in May. I’ve spent countless hours scouring thrift stores just the right decorations. We’ve put down lots and lots of deposits. I read wedding blogs ALL day. I think about weddings A LOT. Personally, I’m making a conscious effort not to just think about the wedding itself, but the act of marriage as well. Because after the cake and flowers are gone, that’s what this whole wedding thing is really about.
The heartbreaking vote on gay marriage in Maine yesterday made me ache for so many people but also made me realize how fortunate I am. I firmly believe that future generations will look back on our country’s current same-sex marriage fight in bewilderment. It’s like me thinking back about women’s lib or civil rights, it doesn’t even really make me feel mad because it just seems so surreal that that’s how things actually were at one point. Like keeping other American citizens from voting based on skin pigment or gender, forbidding adults capable of making their own decisions (and statistically more highly educated and capable of financially providing for a family) from marrying will just seem odd 50 years from now.
That being said, I know as well as anyone how far we still have to go. I live in Arkansas. I grew up in an extremely conservative town, and a pretty conservative household. I have many conservative friends who feel very differently than I do. Most people here don’t see it as a love or human rights issue, and it will take a lot of time and energy to broaden their perspectives.
I promise that I’m not trying to be political or offend anyone. I don’t think it’s a democratic or repulican issue. This is marriage we’re talking about. It’s such a powerful and beautiful thing to be able to say to the world “we have made a pact to live and work together to raise a family and love one another for the rest of our lives.”
The reason I even brought this up is because in a time in my life where my wedding and marriage is constantly on my mind, I can’t imagine not being ‘allowed’ to get married. In the words of yet again another blogger, Meg from A Practical Wedding:
“Because in the end, marriage equality is about all of our marriages. It’s
about who we are, and who we want to become”